When our just turned 18 year old son was df and I was an elder, my wife and I would never have thought to kick him out. Instead we encouraged him to go to a good trade school which he did and now almost 42 years old still uses that trade ti make a living. When the co came into town a few weeks after his dfing he tried to have me removed but the body of elders saw no need for it. Our son admitted he was scaree at the time we would k8ck him out.
Whats funny is now he is the one who refuses to have anything to do with us. Oh well maybe he will wakeup someday. Still Totally ADD